Written by: Skye Hervas-Jones
Today my Uberpool driver, a young cuban, who arrived in Miami only two years ago, asked if I could tell him what I thought about America as a country. Within a few blocks we picked up another passenger, he began the conversation by asking: do you think America is the best place for women right now? I knew they both expected me to say yes, but in fact all I could do was blurt out, “No! This is not the best country for women,” envisioning the enraged rant of Brett Kavanaugh and the controlled tears and sincerity of Christine Blasey Ford.
After listing the multiple countries such as Sweden, The Netherlands and Denmark who rank far higher than America in success of women in culture, entrepreneurship, heritage, business and quality of life.
Both men in the car were surprised by my reaction, I began expressing my feelings on how women’s rights are in disarray. After the Kavanaugh hearing, I personally realized two different things. First the Supreme Court which I have been taught in school is the highest moral and ethical meter in our government that bases their decisions on facts, is really now just a political organization driven by partisan politics. Secondly, and personally more crushing and frightening to me as a woman, only two years older than Ford was at the time of the sexual assault, is that no matter how many women are in power it still boils down to the fact that the Brett Kavanaugh’s of our nation will be forgiven by a white male power elite who think that if a 17-year-old boy sexually assaults a 15-year-old girl 30 years ago it is irrelevant and even a joke, because it was all about beer, beer and a little more beer.
I and millions of other women believe Ford when she came forward putting herself at a great personal risk and with nothing to gain, when she said she was 100 percent sure it was Kavanagh. But I also believe that it is very likely that Kavanaugh does not remember it, not because it didn’t happen but because he never considered it noteworthy seeing as he got away with it. That is the message that I am being sent, the partisan power elite says it’s okay for boys to be boys, that it is ok to sexually assault women, and that our voices must be kept down by either ignoring women who complain or shaming women who come forward with accusations. Even now with the #MeToo platform, it is still an enormous struggle, and every woman will be doubted and humiliated if she comes forward with the truth of what happened to her.
My fellow car passengers and some of my readers may be thinking what I’m saying holds no truth because there was no proof found against Kavanaugh. It is difficult to find evidence when the FBI only spent less than three days to uncover an event 37 years years ago. This was not a trial. Ford did not have to defend herself and prove Kavanagh’s guilt. This was a concerned citizen doing her civic duty at the job interview of her attacker.
For a second put yourself in her shoes, imagine as a freshman you were sexually assaulted by a drunk senior, imagine the humiliation seeping into you and the wall you build around your self to keep the memory as faint as possible. Imagine the thought of having to tell your story to the world knowing you would be shunned and distrusted. This is everything Ford felt and more, and when she heard that that same man that destroyed her at such a young age was running for the position as one of the highest moral and ethical leaders of our country she knew that it was her civic duty to at least try and stop him.
By the time I had finished talking, my co-passenger had jumped out at the stop light with the determination to never start a conversation asking if this country is the best places for women ever again.